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I wasn’t going to post this as I couldn’t actually think of anything interesting and didn’t want to blog about nothing and be dull and boring, BUT then I had a thought whilst reading a story on the internet about Bullying.
I’m highly aware that bullying is widely talked about in the media and in every day lives as it’s an extremely pressing and troubling issue in our society. As someone who was constantly bullied in primary and secondary school, and to an extent, in my university life too. You would think that by the age of 19/20 and beyond people would be better at being honest and open towards their peers about their feelings but I’ve found it’s not the case.
I will openly admit that my body type is not what is considered as ‘beautiful’ and ‘perfect’ in society as I’m a bit overweight. That’s not to say I’m not self-confident as I think I am a pretty confident and open person who generally gets a long with everyone, and I would just like to stress that I am not in any way, shape, or form COMPLAINING about my body type as the only person that can do anything to change it is me, and I’m actively trying to do so. I don’t eat any kind of take-away food, well, except pizza…but pizza is delicious and I always get it gluten free AND vegetarian, but that’s not the point. My point is, people, please, try and be aware of how your words and actions may effect another person emotionally, psychologically and physically.
My next point goes out to all of you out there who have been bullied, and now because something about you has changed, whether it be age or self image or body type, YOU have become a BULLY! I know this girl, I won’t name and shame because that’s just as bad as bullying, and even as I type this I find myself feeling a little hypocritical, but I feel that I need to voice this opinion and my concerns. Anyway, I know this girl, who is on a TV show and her backstory is that she was bullied and that’s what motivated her to do what she’s doing, which is all well and good, what isn’t however, is that she has become a bully to certain people that I know, as well as myself. I find it very unnerving, and hypocritical, and, well, just downright pathetic that she seems to think it’s ok!
Bullying is never EVER the right way to go about things! If you have a problem with someone, you need to tell them you have a problem, bitching about them behind their back and turning a joke about them into a personal attack is despicable behaviour. As someone who was, and sometimes is still bullied I just can’t stand to be around people that are like this. I know, and I’ve seen what kind of effect bullying has on people and it’s not pretty. I suffer from clinical depression, as well as bi-polar disorder and it scares me to think that this is the result of the horrible verbal and sometimes physical bullying that I experienced as a child and into my mid-teens.
What I’m basically trying to say to y’all, is please, just think before you speak. If you don’t have anything nice to say to someone, don’t say anything at all. If you have a problem with the way someone is behaving, tell them, and most importantly, if you are being bullied, PLEASE, speak UP! You don’t have to suffer in silence and you don’t need to be ashamed. Some words that stuck with me from an inspiring young woman whom I admire very much, Carrie Hope Fletcher. She titled a VLOG with this caption and her video was about it, those words are, It’s okay, to not be okay. You don’t need to do things on your own, there is always someone who will be there to listen to you if you need help.
Feel free to comment or message me with any of your own stories if you ever need advice or just someone to talk to and I will do my best to listen and reply with someone helpful advice.
Until next time,
P.S I mean it guys, if you have a problem with a bully and need someone to vent to or talk to, PLEASE get in contact with me. Please❤